Julian just told Kevin that he’s having two birthday parties. One for his straight friends, and one for us.

If we want to celebrate his birthday, he said, we’re welcome to pay for his meal when he makes time to see us after the night he spends with his straight friends.

That feels shitty.

The gay dudes are the one who have to pay his way. But the straight dudes?

Nah, he can hold his own with them, so they’re not on the hook for anything.