I think what I liked about and took away from this article is the way that sexism is rooted in heterosexuality. I appreciate her analysis that it is on heterosexual women to either reject heterosexuality as an identity/our only and default option or change it from the inside. There is a lot of grass is greener on the other side for straight women but not green enough to actually consider dating women or rejecting coupling in the first place. I think that women have just given up in that spot of demanding more of the men in our lives and of those wwe are in a relationship with (men or women).

I also appreciated her pointing out that we all can replicate the unhealthy dominance usually committed by men to women in straight relationships and calling out strange sexual harassment in queer pop culture. Some of the perspectives she brought in of trans women was really fascinating and makes me want to read more of those essays. And I appreciate the call on women to set the parameters of change and definition for men to both give them the space to change but also to demand that they do. 
Those are some of my thoughts but I am thinking a lot still about the article so may have more later. 

Written by Becca Asaki