I married my husband almost three years ago now, which caused a deep fracture between me and my entire conservative family and Trumpian community of origin over their views on gay marriage.

Since then, everything my husband and I have built has been ours to dream and plan alone, with no blueprint to follow in doing so. Much to our initial misfortune, we soon found out that only women are really taught to do the emotional labor of marriage and family-making in our culture, not men.

We don’t define family as having children, persay, but this show has not only helped me see the creative and generative possibility of two men forging a chosen family through brave conversation and managed public vulnerability.

Thank you for giving me the tools needed to force a deep structural change to cis-, white male masculinity, in such a way that we can be two men in a marriage.

I’ve heard a lot of women wish that the masculine mold would break, and in so many ways I feel it has for me through my gay-male marriage. Creating a second way of being a man where the used to only be one.

I credit a lot of my life inspiration to Krista’s conversations that I listen to religiously each week. And I am so grateful for the guidance it brings me.

Happy Thanksgiving, On Being team 🤗 🦃