I think it’s best to keep it a brief description of things. We don’t particularly need any support from you over what happened, but rather hope to give you a more nuanced understanding of why we were so closed off this year —

I was cyber stalked for the better part of this year and most of last, so I was forced to delete all my social media. During that stressful period, we gravitated toward a group of other committed long-term gay couples our age, whom we shared history with. We really didn’t mean to exclude you, it’s just kind of the cards we were dealt.

We’re so sorry it came off any other way.

I’m also keenly aware that my not being on social media makes me as much a stranger to y’all as y’all are to me. I really like the community we share, and if you are willing to participate in the process of off-line trust building, I am, too.

Regardless of what those conversations meant to you, the times we would chat in the hallway, outside by the park, or on the metro meant a lot to me. I don’t have many friends independent of my husband, and yours felt like it was one.

What brief moments we had in the chaos of this year were a nice respite, and I am being completely earnest in saying that I really hope it continues 🙂