Hey Mark,

I was wondering if you would be willing to meet after work for a drink to talk on Tuesday? A text message doesn’t seem the appropriate forum to hold this conversation.

To clarify my intentions:

I’m not disclosing this to seek your support. Apart from my asking your discretion on how you handle this information, no additional labor is required of you.

I have a therapist, a husband, and several lifelong ride-or-dies that have inklings of the situation from their stations faraway, all whom I can talk to when needed. I am amply supported.

KP and I keep discussions on past pain to a need-to-know basis. You have recently told us you feel slighted, and this is us trying to do the work needed to make things right.

I’m keenly aware that my decision to be social media-free means that I’m equally a stranger in the room as others are to me. So, It is incumbent upon me to intentionally be transparent with the people around me, to hopefully one day not be an outsider myself.

I would prefer our conversation on this topic ~NOT~ be ongoing, and it is contained mostly to Tuesday night.

In this moment, I just want you to know what our situation was when you met us, explain the walls we faced throughout the course of this year, and to do all of these things revealing as little emotional information as possible. We would just like to dispel any ill will, drama, or resentment between us as neighbors and to start building mutual trust.

And, finally, if we find ourselves on the same elevator before Tuesday, it’s perfectly okay to not know what to say. Honest self-disclosure is a stupidly awkward and unpleasant experience no matter how you do it; one I hope to stop having to having all the damn time!

I’m on Year Three of this #MeToo business. I’ve found it’s a process that never stops once you start. So, I’m committed to making this as quick and painless as possible.

Now that thugs have stabilized here after a rocky landing, I’m ready to have fun with all my new friends 😃

Happy Weekending, dude, and LMK what’s up!

TK

Oh and, please, no need for pity,

‘Cause we won 💅🏻