Hey Mark,

I really appreciate your being honest. I can definitely see how our actions communicated that message.

You were one of the first people to make us feel welcome in DC, and we did not return in kind — I am really sorry about that.

For what it’s worth, I really value your friendship. I’ve felt the faltering throughout the year too, and I got caught in the aftershocks of both Kev’s and my consecutive layoff scares and didn’t know how to recover.

It might also help to explain why I’ve been more comfortable having all my moments of falling apart in front of friends my age or younger, and my being fearful of doing so in front of older male friends.

If you would allow me, could I tell you some vulnerable information about our life before DC?

I think telling you this story would help put a lot into perspective for you —

Why I am afraid of social media.
Who the friends I’ve talked about in front of you are.

Because I was talking it over w KP. Yes, We have hung out w peeps from our shared crew individually at times. I think, though, you may be conflating those to outings you’ve heard me talk of that we did with another group.

We’ve been hanging out predominantly w an ex-boyfriend of mine from college this year. He and soon-to-be fiancé, along with another engaged gay couple from their circle, have become a dear friends who we’ve spent the lion share of our time with this year.

They helped us out of the bad situation, and it has been really helpful to know other people on the cusp of embarking on this whacky institution of gay marriage.

We don’t know many other gay marrieds!

I’m glad we’re talking, Mark — I truly believe this was just a bunch of miscommunication compounding on itself!