Hey Hannah,

Thanks for understanding!

I’m doing a lot better today.

This year while you were gone, I did an immense amount of self reflection. Being unemployed (and now having graduated to employed-but-still-underemployed) in the bedroom community of Silver Spring for a year now, I’ve been pretty exclusively working on a summer-long writing project, wherein I’ve been publishing all of my daily journals since I’ve gotten engaged. I’ve come to understand my life in a wildly different way than I ever presented to you.

The project still needs some refining, but it is pretty much done. In it, I catalogued the following things:

• Dan Miller, my neighbor since I was two, has been my lifelong physical and emotional abuser for being gay.
• In 2011, I was almost lynched by four strangers w a baseball bat in Frederick because they saw me hold Kevin’s hand at an earlier time. The assault seemed normal to me because of Dan.
• I put the entire story together through the sequential placement of my real-time written journaled reactions of everything that went down w my engagement/ wedding. It should clearly showcase my family’s complete rejection of me.
• I also put the sequential story our now-total estrangement w them, how they lied to me about selling the house and moving to be w my brother in Denver the same day I was laid off last year, the same month our roommate departed breaking the lease.
• And finally, it tells the story of my creation of a new family of my choosing that ultimately replaced them in their absence.

I’m starting a new job this week, selling our car and moving with Kevin into the heart of DC before starting a masters in GIS in January.

I created the blog so I could share it in a way that doesn’t retraumatize me in its recitation. I don’t really have the energy or time to tell you the whole story, but I would love for you to know it.

It’s a big ask, there’s a lot of content to read. I was wondering if you would do me the favor of being the first to do so, while over the next month or two I get a completely new life settled?

Super glad you’re back, boo 🙂

TK